It's not enough for a man to be able to turn the world upside down. He must cherish his woman, holding her in the palm of his hand so she can sleep in his palm when she's tired and bite his fingers when she's unhappy.
When a woman loves a man, she doesn't hold him in the palm of her hand, but rather takes him into her womb. A woman's womb is the warmest and safest place; a man, after all, comes from there. She loves him so much that it's as if she hides him within her womb; he is a part of her body. He can hear her breath, and she can hear his heartbeat. He can playfully somersault within her womb, and he can cry within her womb. She is willing to protect him with her body, willing to provide him with nourishment. Whenever he needs her, he can return to her womb.
What is love? Perhaps it's knowing there's a place you can go. Maybe the palm of your hand, maybe the womb. You don't need my permission.
There are some things you don't need to ask for my permission, for example:
"May I kiss you?"
"Can I stay tonight?"
Can I call you?
"Can I hold your hand?"
"Can I come to you again?"
It's incredibly foolish for a man to ask a woman, "May I kiss you?" If she says, "Yes," it seems too forward. She's left with only two options: say "No" or remain silent. If a man wants to kiss a woman, he should do it first, without asking for her permission. Kissing her without consent might earn him a slap at worst, but he might also get a hug. However, if he asks, "May I kiss you?" the woman will only think he's a fool. He gets nothing.
He doesn't need to ask if he can stay overnight at her place. If she wants you to stay, she'll hint at it. If she wants you to leave, she'll also hint at it. Doesn't a man know when he should stay?
He asked, "Can I hold your hand?" This was infuriating. She had no choice but to say, "No." For a woman, being held in the hand for the first time by a man she loves is a joy she'll never forget; if the man asks for permission first, then there's no joy left.
When will men finally figure out which things they should ask a woman's permission for and which they shouldn't? That's a good thing!
We often say that to like someone, besides loving their strengths, you also have to accept their weaknesses.
The word "accept" sounds helpless. But "acceptance" is not enough; we should learn to love his flaws.
He's a good person, but he lacks romance and is very rigid. Being unromantic isn't so bad! At least that flaw is a good thing.
He's very possessive; he wants you to belong entirely to him. He's jealous of you and other men. He wants to see you every day. He doesn't give you much space. This flaw is actually a good thing! It's better than him only seeing you one day a week.
He's not ambitious, not hardworking, and not driven enough. What's most annoying is that he often says, "Why work so hard? Just take things as they come." But that's not really a flaw! Who says you have to be ambitious to be a person?
He's such a scatterbrain, always losing things. He'll forget one thing or another. He even forgot his plane ticket. This flaw is so endearing! Someone so careless must be pretty guileless.
He's unkempt. He often gets his clothes dirty while eating, dresses casually, has no taste in food, and doesn't know how to enjoy life. This flaw is so unique! It's hard to find such an adorable scatterbrain.
He's emotional, willful, sensitive, and fickle; he can't make you feel secure. That flaw is so romantic!
Starting today, don't accept his flaws, learn to love them. (A stroke of genius from the ancestors)
Listen, in primitive societies, if a man took a fancy to a woman, he could simply knock her unconscious with a stick, drag her back to his cave, and then they could live together happily ever after.
The days of traveling the world alone are over; archaeology has become the past. A man who wants to win a woman's heart must have a skill. That skill, of course, refers to a professional skill, preferably a professional qualification acquired through extensive reading, rather than a skill learned as an apprentice.
Gradually, having a skill is no longer enough. For a man to win a woman's favor, it's best to also own a property, a car, and a considerable amount of savings. Men with property feel the most secure.
A skill, a property, a car, and a considerable amount of savings are just the basic requirements. For a man to win a woman's heart, he also needs an unwavering love. Providing material things alone is not enough; he must make her feel happy. He must promise never to change his mind. He must love her deeply, be considerate of her, and take care of her.
Having an unchanging heart, he also strictly adhered to the monogamous system, dedicating his life to her.
Today's men, in order to drag a woman back to her cave, must first study diligently to become successful, then acquire a skill, a property, a car, substantial savings, an unwavering heart, monogamy, and lifelong companionship. In the end, the man sadly discovers that all his sacrifices have only earned him one night's sleep. They must envy their ancestors' cruel joke. It was all for the sake of love.
Men all think they have a good sense of humor, but that's not their fault. It's women's fault.
When they first met, the man would tell jokes, and the woman, trying to please him, would always cover her mouth and laugh non-stop, even giving him a thumbs-up in compliment.
"You have a really good sense of humor."
Encouraged, the man tried even harder to tell jokes.
The two started dating. The man would tell jokes, and the woman would always laugh heartily. She loved him; everything he said was funny. His jokes were incredibly humorous, and even his tragedies were incredibly moving. When the man saw the woman laughing until tears streamed down her face, he mistakenly thought she understood his jokes. In reality, she didn't understand them at all; she simply loved him.
When lovers are deeply in love, when the man tells a joke, the woman laughs heartily. She loves him, even if his jokes aren't funny. She still tries her best to act funny so as not to embarrass him.
When the two were arguing, the man suddenly said something he thought was very funny to coax her. The woman stopped crying and laughed, punching his chest with her fist as she said:
"Is it funny? Is it funny?"
The man thought his humor had defused a conflict, but in reality, it was the woman who found an excuse to forgive him.
Later, when the man and woman got married, when their love had faded, the woman wouldn't even bother to laugh at the man's jokes, and would honestly tell him, "I don't think this joke is funny at all."
The man thought the woman no longer appreciated his humor; in fact, he never had a humor to begin with. The woman had laughed so heartily only because of love. "?", "!"
After writing *Great Glory*, the great writer Victor Hugo was very concerned about the book's sales. He sent a card to the publisher with nothing written on it except a question mark "?". The publisher immediately understood and sent him a card back, also without anything written on it except an exclamation mark "!", meaning "Excellent!".
Symbols can sometimes be more powerful than words. Today, we can also use symbols to answer a lover's questions.
Do you love me?
He didn't just reply with a single exclamation mark; he filled an entire page with exclamation marks, showing how deeply he loved her.
"Don't you love me anymore?"
He replied with a "?", he himself was also confused.
"will you marry me?"
She replied with a pair of exclamation marks, "!!", "I want to marry you and stay with you forever."
"Am I in good shape?"
He replied with "!", "!", and "!", saying her figure was amazing and he couldn't put her down.
"Can you come with me tomorrow?"