He replied with "!", "?", and "!". He really wanted to be with her, but he didn't know if he could finish his work; but, to see her, who cared! He would definitely come. Love always comes with conditions.
Don't say you love someone unconditionally; love always comes with conditions.
You can do without anything, but you want him to love you. Isn't that a condition?
Parents love their children, but there are conditions. The condition is that the children must be their children. If they are someone else's children, they will not love them or protect them with their lives.
The girl said, "I truly love him unconditionally; I don't even need his love for me." Yes, even if he didn't love her, she would still be willing to stay by his side for life; she loved his talent. If he didn't have talent, would she still love him so unconditionally? No. Her love was still conditional.
A woman can love a utterly useless man, one who lacks talent and ambition. She might say, "Isn't that unconditional?" But she demands a promise to stay with her forever, a promise to change his flaws. She wants a man to make a commitment. What is that if not a condition?
The man said, "I love her for who she is." If she weren't good-looking, if she weren't smart, if she didn't have the personality he liked, would he still love her? She has to meet his criteria to be loved.
We are all loved conditionally, and we love others conditionally as well. Don't be discouraged. Since you know there is no unconditional love in the world, you should strive to become more worthy of being loved, and at the same time, learn to forget some conditions when loving someone.
Chapter Two
Novel Paradise
My sister is in love.
A 20-year-old girl said she had always had a good relationship with her brother, who is a year older than her. However, since she recently started dating, her brother's attitude towards her has completely changed. He ignores her and no longer cares about her. She doesn't understand why her brother has become like this. Is he afraid that his sister will be taken away by someone else? Does he want his sister to become an old maid?
Perhaps every brother is like this. In his heart, his sister is innocent, simple, and perfect. He fears she will be hurt by other boys, and he fears she will be taken away by someone else. Similarly, the sister may be jealous of her brother's lover, and fear that her brother will be taken away by someone else.
We always like to cling to others. When we're young, we cling to our family, then our friends, and as we grow up, we cling to our lovers. Having someone to cling to gives us a sense of security. The stage of clinging to family will eventually pass. One day, the older brother will understand that his younger sister has grown up and needs to find someone else to cling to.
Brother, don't be afraid that your sister will be hurt by boys. So what if she is hurt by boys? A girl has to be hurt by boys, has to suffer some pain in love, be heartbroken and cry for a man, be devastated, or even meet a faithless man, be deceived, and be abandoned... Only in this way can she grow up, become smart, and become strong.
A brother can't protect his sister forever; she has her own life to live. She has her own tears to shed. How can you say you love me?
The woman asked the man, "How can you tell you love me? How can you tell you treat me well?"
The man said, "You'll know how good I am to you when something happens."
What? You'll only realize how good you are to me when something happens?
So what about in ordinary times? What are the chances of a story similar to the movie "Titanic" happening to us, and how many couples will experience life-or-death situations?
Perhaps a woman will never know how much a man loves her. Even if a man loves a woman deeply, if she lives a peaceful and uneventful life, he will never have the chance to express it.
Every time I hear a man say, "You'll know how good I am to you when something happens," I feel a little regretful. Why wait until something happens? A man doesn't wait until he's in trouble to see if a woman can share his joys and sorrows.
By the time something bad happens, it's too late. A man should treat a woman well from a young age, making her feel loved and happy. Let's not talk about the future; if you're not good to me now, no matter how good you are in the future, it won't matter. Maybe you'll never have the chance to shield me from a car with your body. Maybe you'll never have the chance to use your life savings to ransom me from kidnappers. I don't want you to stay by my side if I suffer misfortune.
You should always be good to me. When something happens, you should be even better to me. (A hug through a thick sweater)
The weather is starting to get cooler; in about two months, it'll probably be warm enough to wear sweaters. Moss is all the rage this year, but the biggest problem with moss is that it sheds hair. When you're all lovey-dovey with your boyfriend, his clothes are covered in hair. And if he has another girlfriend, I really don't know how he'll explain the hair on his body. But that's okay. If he can't explain it, he'll have to admit it. Wearing moss to meet him is like leaving a tooth mark on his body—it proves he has another woman.
I've always wanted a warm, handmade sweater, but sadly, no one has knitted one for me yet. A classmate of mine used to knit beautiful sweaters; she could finish one in a single night. Every time she dated a new boyfriend, she would knit him a sweater. Those lonely men who had never worn a warm, handmade sweater would usually be moved to tears upon receiving it, thinking she was a very well-behaved and virtuous girl. Less than three months later, she would dump them.
She prioritizes her boyfriend over her friends; she's never given me a sweater. I've heard some men can knit, and they can knit very beautifully. I've never met a man like that.
I can't knit, so I just buy ready-made ones, some with a hand-knitted feel. It's a little disappointing, but it's a kind of compensation. I love wearing thick sweaters in winter. Buying some good quality sweaters means I don't need to wear an undershirt. But being wrapped in a thick sweater isn't the warmest thing. The warmest thing is being hugged by your loved one through a thick sweater in the cold winter. The warmth of their fingers seeping through the sweater is the warmest and most sensual feeling.
The situation of kissing
I once asked some nearsighted friends how two people who wear glasses kiss. They said:
"One of them has to take off his glasses."
I see.
If a man is very tall and his girlfriend is very petite, how do they kiss? Some say, "The man can bend down to kiss his girlfriend." Others say, "The man can pick his girlfriend up and then kiss her." Why doesn't anyone say they can kiss sitting down or lying down?
If one person has a large mouth and the other has a small mouth, how should they kiss? Some people wonder, "Will they drool when they kiss?" I don't know. The large mouth can cover the small mouth, so wouldn't they be able to kiss? Of course, it's best if the large mouth belongs to the man.
How can two people kiss when they are in different places? Can't they kiss through a telephone line? However, for kissing over a distance, it's more hygienic to use your own phone. Please try to avoid kissing using public telephones.
However, what people are most concerned about is the following situation:
When you're passionately kissing, and his saliva gets into your mouth, should you swallow it casually or what? Swallowing it seems unhygienic, but refusing to swallow it might hurt his pride. In that split second, what should you do? It turns out to be an age-old, difficult question. The role of another man.
V said she wouldn't talk about work with her boyfriend; she would only talk to another man, her good friend. She would tell him about her childhood. She would share a great book with him. She would read a diary entry to him over the phone. If she heard a good song, she would hold the phone to the record player and ask him to listen.
Then what does she need her boyfriend for?
She said she didn't talk to him about work because she was afraid he'd find it boring. She didn't tell him about her childhood because she was afraid he'd find it dull.
As for not sharing the contents of a book with him, not reading a passage from her diary to him, and not playing a song she finds beautiful for him, she said, "It's because the more you love someone, the more afraid you are that they will disagree with you. What if they say the book isn't good?"
The more anxious you are about someone, the more afraid you are of them not appreciating you. If they read your diary entry and just smile without saying anything, how do you know what they're thinking?
The more you care about someone, the more afraid you are that they will laugh at you. If they listen to that song and say it's just average and they've heard better ones, you'll be very unhappy.
We often find ourselves somewhat timid in front of the people we love. The role of another man is precisely to fill these voids. There are a hundred ways to use a man.
Someone wrote a book called "One Hundred Uses of a Dead Cat," which describes how a dead cat can be used as a self-help tool, a chair armrest, a feather duster, a toilet brush, and so on. Cat haters will find it very satisfying, and cat lovers will smile knowingly. If you have a love-hate relationship with men, you might as well design a "One Hundred Uses of Men" book. Here are a few examples:
Lick the stamp: Tell your man, “Kiss me!” When he sticks out his tongue, put a stamp on the tip of his tongue and then stick it on an envelope.
Human punching bag: When you're in a bad mood, you can use it to practice punching or drip candle wax.
Powerful bottle opener: Let it handle any bottle caps you can't open.
Automatic massage chair: Sit on him and have him massage you.